From such a young age, we’re taught that, when you love somebody, you’re just ‘you’, that you’d protect them from anything. This would often be taught through the love from your family, or close friends.
As you get older, it seems a common belief that your ’significant other’ is to be your best friend. That he or she, will be everything you need, and you’ll just feel complete.
This is so so wrong.
I have a best friend. I love him more than I’ve ever loved somebody, and I totally mean that. I feel totally complete when I’m around him. We can link arms whilst walking through a crowded town, deep in conversation, totally oblivious to our surroundings. When we have ‘heated debates’ it’s usually me crying with laughter, and him getting totally frustrated at my blatant stupidity. We don’t care that we’re hysterical in the middle of the street, looking like total crazy people, because right there, in that moment? We’re totally focused on the one another, learning about each others beliefs.
We can fall asleep on his couch, after a night of being up talking about cameras and movies. We can spend the entire day eating pancakes, watching the music channel, and beating the shit out of each other, and it’ll still be counted as one of the best days I’ve ever had. I feel totally safe around him, like I can be myself.
That’s just how we are.
However. Society seems to think this is wrong. Since our friendship began, people have been pushing us towards ‘boyfriend/girlfriend’ status. Why? Because of the misconception of ‘love.’ We’re told that our friendship is love, I mean, what else could it be? The media, the ‘grown-ups’ are forever suggesting that your parter needs to be your best friend. I mean, every Taylor Swift song seems to be about falling IN love with your boy-best friend. I can see why it’s an easy thing to fall into.
I’d be lying if I said I’d never thought about it, I mean, of course, it’d be so simple. But, really, would it? We know so much about each other, and whilst I think that’s fantastic, I think we know too much about each other. It’d be a bit weird…
I’m just so fed up of everybody else outside mine and his’ world, assuming we’re together, that we’ll ‘end up together.’
They say it with a pitying smile, and a hopeful glint in their eye. WHY? Because it’s what is assumed.
As much as I complain about it, sadly, after having this belief forced down my throat for five years, I too, have come to believe that the only chance of a decent relationship, is for that person to be my best friend first. I’m refusing to give anybody a chance, I’m forever comparing the relationship I have with them, to mine and my best friend’s, feeling that I could never know them as well as I do him. That I could never trust anybody as much as him. That I’ll never feel as comfortable.
So I ignore people asking me ‘out for a drink’, having some strange belief, that some other guy will just turn up, we’ll become best friends, and we’ll fall for each other.
It’s so annoying.
And I love you, so so much :’)
this made my day.
This is the guys tumblr :p http://threads-of-mischief.tumblr.com/ _
Aren’t my friends awesome? Hahhaaha <3
Even though this was my idea, and I took the picture, it was on his>http://frazninja.tumblr.com/ camera, so I guess he gets some credit ;D
(they’re doughnuts btw)